Becoming Wellness- and Trauma-Informed
“When a complex system is far from equilibrium, small islands of coherence in a sea of chaos
have the capacity to shift the entire system to a higher order.”
Ilya Prigogine, Nobel Prize-winning chemist
Share the Insights and Science of the Evolved Nest with Compassion
The US Surgeon General’s fall 2024 Advisory, Parents Under Pressure, highlighted unprecedented levels of stress among American parents due to lack of support, directly linking parental stress to child well-being. This advisory strongly supports our view that the wellness-informed science of the Evolved Nest must be presented through trauma-informed approaches. Like the Surgeon General, Evolved Nest science emphasizes nurturing parental health and creating environments that prevent and repair trauma for families.
Surgeon General’s Findings on Parental Stress
- Nearly half of parents report being overwhelmed by stress, citing challenges such as finances, caregiving, and social conditions like poverty and discrimination.
- Chronic stress in parents disrupts their own mental health and significantly increases stress in their children, leading to cycles of distress within families.
- The advisory calls for a cultural and policy-level shift to provide parents the support they need, including access to paid leave, affordable childcare, and mental health resources.
Evolved Nest Science: Trauma-Informed Relevance
- The Evolved Nest framework describes a “wellness-informed system” for both parents and children, which includes nurturing touch, community support, and timely emotional responsiveness—conditions known to buffer stress and protect against trauma.
- Trauma-informed teaching based on Evolved Nest principles helps caregivers develop self-calming skills, build trusting relationships, and foster compassionate environments. These strategies address parental stress and empower parents with more effective caregiving tools.
- The focus on trauma prevention and healing aligns with the Surgeon General’s advisory’s prescription for policy and cultural change, advocating holistic and community-based supports for parenting.
Connecting the Advisory and Evolved Nest
- Both the Surgeon General’s advisory and Evolved Nest science recognize that chronic stress—particularly when parents lack support—drives trauma and poor health outcomes in children.
- Teaching the Evolved Nest in a trauma-informed way arms both parents and professionals with evidence-based practices that directly counteract the conditions leading to stress identified in the advisory, offering practical ways to break cycles of trauma and promote resilience.
- Integrating trauma-informed Evolved Nest practices helps create the safe, predictable relationships and supportive communities that the Surgeon General calls for, providing a concrete roadmap for implementation.
In summary, the 2024 advisory underscores the urgent need for trauma-informed, wellness-supporting approaches like the Evolved Nest to disrupt intergenerational cycles of stress and adversity in families.
Watch the Evolved Nest’s Breaking the Cycle short film at www.BreakingtheCycleFilm.org
Trauma-informed Approaches for Sharing the Evolved Nest Science
A. Recognize Collective Trauma in Parenting
Parents today often carry trauma from multiple sources:
- Cultural disconnection: Generations of disrupted Evolved Nest practices due to colonization, industrialization, and dominance-based worldviews.
- Institutional betrayal: Science and medicine have often issued contradictory, decontextualized advice (e.g., “don’t pick up babies, you’ll spoil them” vs. “skin-to-skin is vital”). This erodes trust and creates chronic uncertainty.
- Structural stressors: Economic pressures, lack of community support, and policies hostile to family well-being amplify parental stress.
- Internalized shame: Parents often believe they’ve “failed” when in reality the culture has failed to provide supportive conditions—a village of care.
Acknowledging these as collective trauma, as moral injury, is the first healing step. It shifts blame away from individual parents and locates the injury within systems, policies, and dominant cultural paradigms.
B. Follow Principles for Trauma-Informed Teaching of the Evolved Nest
a. Put Safety and Compassion First
- Create environments where parents feel emotionally safe and not judged.
- Normalize feelings of grief, anger, or defensiveness when they learn what they and their children missed.
- Use language of invitation and possibility, not prescription.
b. Contextualize the Science
- Frame Evolved Nest research as restoration of ancient wisdom that helped our ancestors thrive. When combined with modern science, it is not ‘the latest fad.’
- Acknowledge openly that science has been complicit in confusing or misleading parents, and affirm that the Evolved Nest science is rooted in deep cross-cultural and evolutionary patterns.
- Say: “This isn’t about you doing something wrong. It’s about reclaiming what was forgotten or even stolen from us.”
c. Empower through Choice
- Present Evolved Nest practices as a species-normal way to support human potential for every age.
- Encourage parents to find small, doable steps that feel healing (e.g., moments of nature connection, playful presence).
- Emphasize progress, not perfection.
d. Encourage Collective Healing
- Facilitate group learning circles where parents can share stories of confusion, shame, or cultural betrayal.
- Recognize that healing comes not only from new knowledge, but from belonging and solidarity.
- Establish rituals of letting go and transformation.
- Honor ancestral and Indigenous practices that reflect Evolved Nest principles, reconnecting people to kinship memory.
e. Integrate Trauma Healing Practices
- Incorporate self-regulation and co-regulation tools (breathwork, grounding, somatic awareness, compassionate dialogue) alongside teaching Evolved Nest.
- Frame the Evolved Nest as not only for children, but also as a pathway for parents to heal themselves, in body, mind and spirit.
C. Steps to Healing the Collective Trauma
- Name the Wounding
Begin by affirming: “Parents have been misled and abandoned by systems. This is not your fault. This is a collective injury.” - Reframe Blame into Solidarity
Emphasize that Evolved Nesting is about remembering and restoring together, not about measuring up to an impossible ideal. - Invite Grief Work
Provide space for grieving what was lost (missed bonding, absent community). Grief is a portal to deeper connection. - Cultivate Hope
Highlight the plasticity of humans across the lifespan: adults and children can both heal through small, consistent nurturing practices. - Help Worldview Shifting
Position the Evolved Nest within the Kinship Worldview: healing is not only individual, but cultural and planetary. By practicing Nestedness, we promote healing in humans and Nature.
D. Example Trauma-Informed Messaging
Instead of:
- “Babies need constant physical touch to develop properly.”
Say:
- “Our ancestors naturally lived in ways where babies received constant touch, and our biology is still wired for that. Many of us didn’t receive this — and it’s not our fault. But we can bring back pieces of it today, for our children and for ourselves. For example, skin to skin touch for four to six hours a day is beneficial for infant health.”
E. Emphasize the Deeper Healing Opportunity
Teaching the Evolved Nest in a trauma-informed way is not just about parenting — it’s a collective invitation to:
- Rebuild trust in ourselves and our communities.
- Reconcile science with ancestral and Indigenous wisdom.
- Heal intergenerational trauma by restoring practices that align with our evolutionary design.
- Restore our connectedness to the rest of Nature so that we develop capacities to move with Nature instead of against it.
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Embody Self-Nesting Principles When Sharing the Science of the Evolved Nest and Kinship Worldview
Below is the Health Pledge our Certified Nesting Ambassadors sign and follow as a part of their training to learn and share the science of the Evolved Nest and its Kinship Worldview.
You can learn more about becoming a Certified Nesting Ambassador here.
You can also use the list below to guide you through re-nesting yourself and your community.
Nesting Ambassador Personal Health Pledge
Nesting Ambassadors are asked to honor their own healing and wellbeing as the living foundation for sharing the Evolved Nest with others in a trauma-informed, wellness-informed way.
Personal Health Pledge
As a Nesting Ambassador, I affirm that, as a member of the human species, my own nervous system, body, heart, and spirit are part of the Evolved Nest I am helping to restore in the world.
I understand that the science of the Evolved Nest shows that nurturance, co-regulation, and secure, caring environments support healthy neurobiology, empathy, and prosocial behavior across the lifespan. I recognize that many contemporary conditions are traumatogenic and that a wellness-informed, trauma-informed approach is needed to restore our biology of kinship and care.
Therefore, I pledge to develop competency while working towards proficiency with the commitments below if I am not yet competent or proficient:
- To regard my own body, mind, emotions, and spirit as worthy of consistent, compassionate care, including rest, play, nourishment, movement, connection with supportive others, and time in nature.
- To develop and maintain personal restorative practices (such as nature connection, contemplative time, body-based regulation, creative expression, time outdoors, spiritual practice, or therapeutic support) that help me return to regulation and relational openness when I feel stressed or overwhelmed.
- To recognize signs of fatigue, secondary trauma, and burnout in myself, and to pause, seek support, and adjust my commitments when needed, rather than pushing through in ways that harm my wellbeing or relationships.
- To engage in ongoing learning about trauma-informed and resilience-informed ways of communicating, especially when sharing the science of the Evolved Nest with individuals, families, communities, and organizations.
- To approach conversations about trauma, adversity, and unmet early needs with sensitivity, consent, and care, avoiding graphic detail, pathologizing language, or pressure to disclose personal experiences.
- To present the Evolved Nest as a hopeful, strengths-based pathway toward healing, connection, and thriving, emphasizing what can be grown and restored now rather than dwelling solely on what was missing in the past.
- To remember that each person and community carries unique histories, cultural knowledge, and resources, and to honor these with humility, cultural sensitivity, and a collaborative spirit when sharing Evolved Nest science.
- To embody the principles of the Evolved Nest to guide my own relationships—offering warmth, responsiveness, and co-regulation where possible—while also respecting my limits and seeking co-created, community-based support.
- To seek supervision, mentoring, peer support, or additional training when I encounter situations beyond my current capacity, especially where trauma, violence, or significant distress are involved.
- To continually reflect on my own worldview, biases, and emotional responses, and to lean toward a kinship-oriented, life-enhancing stance with humans and more-than-human relatives.
- To acknowledge that the best way to practice and integrate the principles of the Evolved Nest in a trauma-informed way is to heal one’s own trauma,
Commitment to Learning
I agree to read and reflect on core materials about:
- The Evolved Nest as a wellness-informed framework for human development and lifelong flourishing.
- Trauma-informed and “beyond trauma-informed” approaches to sharing information in ways that intend to protect, rather than overwhelm, the nervous systems of both sharer and listener.
I commit to integrating what I learn into my personal practices, my relationships, and my role as a Nesting Ambassador. (Find information here: https://nestedworld.org/welness-informed/ )
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About the Video Above
It could be argued that humans have never been so destructive, so violent against a living earth. How did we arrive here?
We forgot the wellness-informed pathway to human wellbeing, a holistic wellbeing that leads to peacefulness. We describe the wellness-informed pathway and how it is shaped in peaceful cultures by meeting humanity’s basic needs. We discuss what human thriving looks like in individuals and societies.
We describe two cycles of human development: Cooperative Companionship, which is wellness informed, and Competitive Detachment, which is trauma inducing. These cycles are perpetuated by bottom up processes, rooted in neurobiology, and in top-down processes, guided by the stories or narratives we follow. We can change how we raise children and the stories we tell about our human nature and human purpose.
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How can we reimagine humanity? The Evolved Nest and the Kinship mindset that accompanies it are wellness promoting. They represent the ways all our deep ancestors lived and understood the world and their place in it. They arise from a planetary consciousness, which is sorely needed today. You can take up this consciousness, participating in the planet’s arising immune system as a Nesting Ambassador.
